Proxi answers her in your voice
We were where you are.
She asks again. You answer. A few minutes later the question is back, and whether it comes down the phone or from the next room, you have started to brace for it.
We did too. We built this, and before we built it we were the ones answering. You are not cold. You are one person, and she needs more than one person can carry.
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One evening, one question
What she is asking
Am I safe. Is someone coming. Am I alone.
Nobody told us this part
The answer disappeared.
The need did not.
You told her two o’clock. She heard you. But the question underneath was never answered, so it comes back, sometimes in those words and sometimes in others.
And there is less in the day to turn to instead. So the question becomes the thing she comes back to.
And sometimes the need arrives as action instead of words.
- Getting up to go find you
- Resisting help that does not make sense to her in that moment
- Or sitting alone inside it
This is her telling you something. Dementia changes how the need reaches you, not whether it is real. The question underneath is still open.
What Proxi is
So we stopped answering the words, and answered the question underneath.
Not an app, and nothing for her to learn. Proxi picks up when you cannot, or speaks with her through a small speaker in her room, inside limits you set.
Then Proxi tells you what happened.
And if something sounds wrong, it does not wait for morning. It calls you right away.
Your voice, not a stranger’s
She cannot build trust with someone new. Every meeting with a new voice is a first meeting, forever. Yours already lives in the memory that lasts longest.
On her phone, or in her room
She calls you on the same number she always has. Or a small speaker where she sits, for the days you are both in the same house.
Inside the limits you set
No money talk. No medical promises. Nowhere you said not to go.
And Proxi stays
Old stories, songs, the small things she can still do well. The empty hours are half the problem.
Your voice
Tuned for how she hears now.
Hearing changes before anyone notices. The crisp edges of words go first, a phone line strips away more, and by evening she is working twice as hard for half the message. So she asks again.
Proxi speaks in your voice, rebuilt for her ears. Not louder. Clearer, paced so there is time to take it in, and unmistakably you.
The voice is AI, built from recordings you make of yourself. You hear it and approve it before she ever does.
After
Same mother. Calmer nights.
Nothing here changes what she has, and the hard days are still hard. What changes is how long she waits between asking and being answered, and most of what you dread lives in that gap.
How it is done
Three things happen. That is the whole of it.
1
Under half an hour of your time
About a week on the calendar, but almost none of it is yours. You give us two numbers, yours and hers, Proxi listens in on a few calls you were making anyway, and one short interview fills the gaps. Nobody installs anything, and your number does not change.
2
Then she calls, and Proxi answers
At eight in the evening or at three in the morning, in your voice, with the patience a tired person’s twentieth answer cannot have.
3
In the morning you read it
A plain summary of the night. What she asked for, how often, what settled her, and what did not. Sentences, not charts.
The rest of it
The parts you will want to ask about.
Setup, what she hears, what reaches you, and who holds the keys.
The science
Playing a familiar person’s recorded voice to someone with dementia is an established practice with published research behind it. Where this comes from
Setting it up, and the first two weeks
About a week on the calendar, and under half an hour of it is yours. You give us two phone numbers, yours and hers, Proxi joins a few calls you were making anyway, and one short interview fills whatever the calls did not cover. People have finished that interview in nine minutes. Nobody installs anything, and your number does not change.
The first two weeks are enhanced observation. Her conversations are read, by you and by our nursing staff, and anything that does not sound like you gets changed. Your voice is already built by then. What those weeks add is attention, not more recordings of you.
The first two weeksMost people adjust three to five things in the first week. That is normal, and it is what the two weeks are for. After that the rhythm settles.
What she hears, and why it has to be your voice
You. Answering at three in the morning, patient the way a tired person’s twentieth answer cannot be.
A familiar voice is not a nicety here. Trust is built from meeting someone again and again, and she can no longer collect those meetings, so every new voice stays a stranger no matter how warm it is. Your voice was learned decades ago and sits in the memory that lasts longest.
What you see in the morning
A plain summary of the night. What she asked for, how often, what settled her, and what did not.
Each week, in ordinary words, what is different from last week. Not a chart to interpret. Sentences, of the kind you would want from a person who sat with her.
Sharing itYou can forward any of it to a sibling or bring it to her doctor. We do not interpret it medically.
When she needs a person, not a voice
Some things a conversation cannot fix. Pain, a fall, an infection, a night that is going wrong in a way that needs somebody there.
Proxi reaches you first, then down the list you set. It flags when something reads as physically wrong rather than unsettled, the distinction most often missed at three in the morning by tired people who love her.
Who holds the voice and the data
You do. We cannot reach the key ourselves, and there is no recovery path that runs through us. Unlocking it needs a third party you authorise.
You can stop it at any point. What must be kept for legal reasons is held encrypted by a third party, retrievable by you and not by us.
Where this starts
Early Access is free.
The whole thing, not a limited version. No charge while you take part, no card on file, and no trial that quietly turns into a subscription. We are still improving this, and the families in Early Access are the reason it gets built right.
Proxi is not emergency support and does not provide medical advice.
Your voice, and who holds it
The other half of it
And the part where you do not know what comes next.
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